Rituals
FUNERAL BLOG LIFE, Death & RANDOM MUSINGS Rituals Recently, I went to a really uplifting evening at GreenAcres Living Memorial Parks Epping Forest, learning about the message behind their rebrand, of nurturing beautiful places where life and memories walk hand in hand. I got chatting to their MD, Christopher Koller, about how it is all the little ways people go about remembering those loved and lost which really matter. We then spoke about how the word ‘ritual’ can sometimes feel a bit too ‘hocus pocus’ or religious to some, but as a celebrant, I’m all over it! Which got me thinking, as I believe we structure our whole days around mini rituals, and then I couldn’t sleep that night until I got this poem out my head… enjoy! Rituals The little things we do which centre us in moments fleeting,Which hold space for self, to pause, think, or soothe when seething!That first…
The After Project
FUNERAL BLOG LIFE, Death & RANDOM MUSINGS The After Project It is often after the funeral which is the hardest. The initial shock or deep grief can have a numbing effect, self-preservation as you’re suddenly spun into conversations about funerals, music choices, differing family opinions, and probate. Planning the service can effectively give you a ‘job’ to do. Something to organise, often whilst feeling totally surreal. And then you go home, after the service. Perhaps to an empty house, perhaps to a family who have lost a parental guide, a sibling, or a carer, and go… now what? How do I do this? Friends say to pop round if you need anything, but you don’t want to be a burden, and family slowly begin to pick up their own lives, perhaps many miles away, because as much as we want it to, life doesn’t stop, even though, for us, it…